I truly love my family so much that I have been doing everything possible to give them a life where they can do what makes them happy. But in this pursuit, I lost myself and forgot the very reason as to why I was doing this in the first place. I don’t regret a lot, but I do regret not making more memories with some of my family members.
A funeral would do that to you. Funerals are part of life as much as I wish they were not. However, funerals are for the living more than the dead. They’re to remind us that our lives are short literally and your life when it ends should be a life that you choose. It’s like choosing a spouse to marry for your wedding. If your life was a novel a wedding would be like the beginning of the second part of your life titled “Family Legacy Continues” and the funeral is the conclusion of your book. What does your story look like at its conclusion is what funerals are to remind you of? Your story should be reflected in the hearts, mind, and memories of those that had a chance to witness your story.
For some people their legacy and story are about the family they create the generational wealth they leave or begin for their family, and or their purpose sharing their gift with the world. Now of course for some people a wedding is not part of their story, which is completely fine. However, a funeral is a part of everyone’s so never lose sight of what you want your story to be. You are the author of your story do not write a story that appeases others. Do not write a story for the satisfaction of others. Write your story according to your own will, your own happiness, and your own values. Be unapologetic about it so that at your funeral those that remember you can at least say “they lived their life no one else’s but their own”.
Yoruba Demons 